This is one of the greatest myths about sex and relationships. Sex should not be used as a barometer for a “good” relationship. A healthy and fulfilling relationship is a collage of intimate communications, an intrinsic emotional bond, shared spiritual and moral values coupled with sexual compatibility. By no means is sex designed to be the foundation of two people. Sex is simply another way for people to connect. It enables us to escape, if you will, the day to day fast paced environment we live we are enthralled in. couple
As I mentioned before, sex is a vehicle to express ourselves typically with some one we have attraction for or have feelings for. It’s a way of demonstrating trust between individuals. Allow me to make this point, sex is good. It’s good for people to experience it. It’s great exercise, it’s a great stress release. However, sex is not everything in a relationship. Think about this, if you have a fulfilling relationship sex probably makes up less than 15 percent of the relationship, which leaves 85 percent of the rest of the relationship is what’s most important to you. Conversely, if sex is a huge problem in the relationship then it becomes the primary focus therefore making it a super-sized issue in the relationship.
Sex, overall, is much more than physical intercourse or penetration. It’s a combination of emotional and mental connection, therefore, all forms of intimacy such as caressing, kissing, holding,touching, spoken words are all applicable. The founders of african american therapist stated that chemistry is essential, just note that when all forms of intimacy are exercised “good sex” can happen but “good sex” does not equal a good relationship. If you’re basing your relationship on sex alone…be prepared to sexually drained and emotionally empty in present and future relationships.
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